Relationships can be so complicated, especially for the woman who doesn’t understand men. Everything seems to be going along smoothly when suddenly, he begins to pull away.
In an effort to hang on to him, she will make every effort to draw him closer which will stifle him and may make matters more complicated.
The truth here isn’t that when men pull away, he’s falling in love, and he’s analyzing every angle to see if this is really where he wants to be.
Along with love, comes a lot of responsibility. Men are supposed to support women and love her through thick and thin. It can be heart-wrenching for her to feel like she’s in limbo and no amount of explaining this to him is going to help in fact, it can actually make it worse.
Suddenly, he is feeling suffocated and panics and may run. The trick here is for her to simply back off and wait quietly.
Of course, that’s a lot easier said than done. It’s not easy at all. But, when he suddenly feels that she is pulling back, he’s going to suddenly make his move to keep her.
It’s all very irrational from her point of view, but from his, it’s vital to allowing him to “make his move.” All of this fear he has is subconscious. He feels like “forever” may be a ball and chain that he drags around.
The trick she has to use is to show him that she’s okay if he pulls back (of course it hurts but don’t let on). Take some time for you and give him the space to make the adjustments that will give you a relationship that truly lasts.
He’s not really giving up anything but to him; he is giving up everything. His life of freewheeling and doing what he wants when he wants will be over once he takes the steps to make that commitment.
Sometimes, he will pull so far away you’ll decide to move on. Don’t worry, if this happens, it either wasn’t meant to be, or he’ll be back post haste. Either way, you owe it to yourself to not pine over him but to make it look as if you’re okay without him.
This will motivate him so be prepared to take him back as your phone should be ringing quickly. If your life paths are different, face it and move on, however, if they are along the same trajectory, you’re going to have to be patient.
Men don’t see things as women do and what they perceive as “forever” may make them feel boxed in. Think outside of the box and focus on happiness and he will want you forever.
Remember this; he needs to be needed. He needs to be wanted, but you can’t suffocate him by being too needy. It’s a delicate balance at best, but if you weather it right, you’re going to have the man of your dreams.